Steve + Beth
Honesty. Heart. Hustle. Home. We can promise you that with us, you will get all of that. How we come together with you to create our chosen family may be a beautifully messy journey, but we will work together to build mutual trust & understanding.
Roots & Wings
We have real love and stability to offer in this all too uncertain world. Our families gave us strong roots, but also wings to explore. That is our wish for our child--roots and wings. We had several dreams we wanted to fulfill before we found one another and started our own family. Once we met, we knew we wanted to be parents and were engaged in less than a year of dating. Steve finished graduate school and we were married a few days later. We took time in our first year of marriage to travel and deepen our relationship. An unexpected job offer for Beth, had us move to NYC. We began working with specialists to increase our chances of starting a family, but ultimately decided that for us, how we defined family was in love, not biology. With family and friends enthusiastically supporting us, we talked to friends and others who had adopted, reached out to agencies and quickly flew to Texas to learn more. The birth mother panel where we heard directly from birth mothers, was the moment that validated our choice. We admired the bravery, fierce protection, and love in each of their stories. We started the application process before we left Texas. As soon as we made the decision that this was our path it was like a weight was lifted and we knew that this was what was meant to be. Our journey to get here has been a trial in patience and often disappointment but that has only strengthened our commitment to one another and our resolve for creating a family through adoption.
Beth is passionate about what she believes in and a true optimist. She is intuitive and empathetic. Beth hates to fly and white knuckles the seat at the slightest turbulence but loves to travel & will go anywhere at any time. She loves planning trips, whether it's a road trip, camping or out of the country. Beth was shy growing up. Because of her passion for helping people and building a career that was purpose driven, she's worked to overcome the introvert inside of her. She now is a communications and marketing executive leading a team of over 200 people at a large not for profit health care company. Beth also leads the company's Diversity & Inclusion workgroup as well as the women's employee resource group. She can't wait to share her love of reading, the outdoors, travel, and an active imagination with a child.
Steve is fiercely loyal and has a sense of duty to protect others. He is brave - running towards challenges without a second thought. He has a global view and is intellectually curious about other cultures, religions, and ways of life. Steve drives slowly. Seriously for a guy that loves F1 racing, Beth will often tell him to go faster to just get up to the speed limit! Steve is also a veteran. He spent almost 20 years in the Army with several combat deployments and was homeless while he went to university for his undergraduate degree. He has a regal resilience and is constantly evolving to create a better world for those around him. He can't wait to share his passion for designing and building one of a kind wood furniture, and pastries with a child. Steve is excited to share with our child what he's learned about balancing physical, intellectual and emotional well-being.
The Story of Us... So Far
We met on a blind date in early December of 2012. Beth had such low expectations for the date that she made plans to meet with a friend for dinner after the meet up. Steve had just moved to DC following a deployment and was also skeptical about the dating scene. We met up and immediately began chatting about life and travels. That led to Beth calling her friend from the bathroom and telling her that she was sorry for the last-minute cancellation, but this guy was cute and charming. We discovered that France was a common thread. Steve's family was from France and France was the first place that Beth ever traveled to out of the country. As it got later, Beth finally said that she had to go to walk her dog, Fisher. Steve said he would like to join. Beth warned him that Fisher was very protective and pretty much disliked men. Much to Beth's surprise, when Steve met Fisher he got on his belly and let Fisher sniff him. It was a sign. A few weeks later, Beth and a friend went to South Africa on a trip. Steve and Beth texted and wrote emails to one another the whole time giving them a chance to get to know all about one another. We began dating seriously, taking our first trip together to Jackson Hole, Wyoming, exploring DC and meeting family in Arizona and California. Steve planned a proposal, nine months later surprising Beth with an engagement ring he designed using Beth's Grandmother's ring & having a group of friends waiting nearby to help celebrate. We began planning our wedding after a trip with friends to Argentina. Steve joked that they should get married in the French Chateau in the town that Steve's mom grew up in and Steve spent summers with his grandparents and extended family. Beth instantly got on Google Translate and found the chateau. Steve claims he wasn't serious, but Beth reminded him that you never joke with a newly engaged woman about a wedding in France. Days after Steve graduated with his master's degree, we were fortunate to have 100 friends and family join us for our wedding at the chateau. We all stayed in Paris and planned the wedding for 12/30 so we could also spend New Year's Eve celebrating together. After the wedding, we settled into our newly married life in Washington, DC. We decided to add to our family with Londi, a fluffy puppy. A few months later we took a honeymoon to South Africa. Steve always thought Beth was a bit emotional and silly when describing the magic and beauty of South Africa and its people. But once Steve saw his first herd of elephants in person, he understood why Beth loved visiting and they pledged to take their child one day. Beth received an unexpected job offer in New York City in 2016. We decided that it would be a great adventure to move to a new city and discover it together and one with so much life and opportunity. Steve was very supportive, and they packed up the house, rented it to friends, and started this next chapter. NYC was overwhelming, but we enjoyed early morning trips with the dogs to Central Park and discovering all the variety of great food. Some new friends invited us out to their place outside the city for a weekend. We quickly loved the farm stands, the beaches and the slower pace than the city. A few months later, we made an offer on a house with a huge fenced yard. We thought it would be the perfect way to balance the city and have the best of both worlds. What started as a weekend house, became our favorite place on weekends, holidays, days off and work from home days. Beth's work has gone fully remote and we've been able to live here full time while continuing one of our favorite activities--home improvement. Steve's built a home gym and we added a pool for summer days. We are in easy distance to all NYC has to offer with museums, restaurants and diverse cultural activities. We are fortunate to have a loving and supportive family that we see often, with plenty of nieces and nephews to welcome our future child.
The Four-Legged Babies
We have two dogs. Londi is a 6-year old Golden Retriever. She has never met a stranger and loves everyone. Steve and Londi are a certified therapy dog team. They do visits to the elderly and people who are sick. Londi gravitates to the saddest looking New Yorker and always manages to get them to smile. She sees wheelchairs and walkers, and just knows to sit at their feet and smiles. She is such a sweetheart that our neighbor comes over just to walk her and Londi visits another elderly neighbor regularly. Kids crawl all over her and she just smiles. Londi was named after Londolozi which is a safari camp in South Africa is where we spent our honeymoon. We lost Londi's older brother Fisher this April. He was 14 and an old-soul who literally brought Beth and Steve together. His passing was unexpected and is still hard, but you may see him in pictures and certainly his pictures are prominently displayed in our home. Fisher came into Beth's life as a rescue when she was living in New Hampshire--he was one of a kind. Twyla joined us this summer as a puppy from Amarillo, TX. She was found with her siblings abandoned. We thought it was time that Londi have a playmate again. She is part kangaroo, with seriously long legs, and a bouncy personality. She loves to cuddle and finds a lap and just plops in it. Twyla was named after one of the shows we watched during quarantine--Schitt's Creek--and is just as sweet as the character she was named for. Both Londi and Twyla love people, consider themselves the neighborhood greeters, and are gentle with our niece and kids.
Love & Acceptance
Our promise is that we will listen to this child's voice & foster their interests, supporting them with unconditional love and a sense of belonging. These are not only our words, but the actions we will take. We will provide this child with emotional, intellectual and financial support so that they can have a foundation to become their best selves. We will celebrate their uniqueness every day and work relentlessly to show them how fiercely we loved them even before we meet them. We will do everything in our power to protect them from hurt while preparing them for life's challenges. We will foster their curiosity and show them all the different people, cultures, food, religions, and beliefs that make up this world. We will continue to learn, grow and educate ourselves so we can be the best parents for them and the best partner to you. Our promise to you is that however you may have arrived here today, we want to get to know you. We want to learn about you and your dreams for this child. We commit to you to build an open, non-judgmental relationship built on trust with you. If you wish, we are happy to send you letters and photographs as well as plan annual visits at Gladney. We believe that part of our child's well-being involves knowing their birth story and the parts of you that you would like to share. We welcome the opportunity to build that relationship openly with you. We've never doubted that we will be parents and are so grateful that adoption, and you, will allow us to finally do that.
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